buy a lavender plant. fall asleep with sprigs of it on your chest. breathe it deeply, all the way inside. back to the mat, no exceptions. fall asleep in savassna. cry in pigeon. laugh out loud in happy baby. mascara and groomed brows, always. red lipstick when you need it most. save your highest heels for the days you feel the lowest. wear clothing as costume. match it to your mood. chin up. best foot forward. find comfort in words and wine and the women who love you. leave your comfort zone, at least once a week. dance alone in the living room, at least once a day. guyatri by candlelight. inhale. exhale. inhale again. do the work. do the work. do the work. spin your hoop, your hips, your dreams. mountain top church every wednesday – never you mind the unmet dreams, you still can kiss the sky. cuddle sleeping children. remember why you are here. remember yourself. remember yourself. remember yourself. feet to pavement, music blasting in ears, forget everything but the run. cultivate presence. become fierce about your autonomy. take long drives with the windows down. bless everything, even your regrets. accept your regrets and allow them to teach you. welcome admiration but decline the pedestal. make friends with your unmet hope and allow it to guide you. kiss your solitude and allow it to work through you. let the sadness flatten you. stay in bed until it lifts. do not rush your grief. do not rush your grief. do not rush your grief. tidy your space before bed, know it as an act of love. be infinitely tender. show up for others. live out loud. live as the personification of wide –open-vulnerable-crazy-free. stick your landings. live in kindness. keep a prayer candle burning for someone at all times. give thanks, every day. practice intentional, loving touch. om namo guru dev namo. make your bed tightly with the brand new sheets. when your naked skin slides inside them for the first time, know it as a gift to yourself. honor the divinity that is everywhere. get down with your inner badass. turn off your phone, and your computer and your mind. find your heart center and send it compassion. see the holiness in everyone you meet. honor it. know your worth. know your worth. know your worth. accept no less. become familiar with the space where compromise is unkind. nuture your exquisite loneliness. let it teach you. light candles at every opportunity. always wear perfume, it helps you remember yourself. touch your inked ribs lightly when you forget who you are. let yourself be moved. seek out art. surround yourself with artists, creative, deep thinkers, high divers and earth shakers of all kinds. accept gifts offered with whole heart, even when such acceptance is difficult. stop behaving. eat food that nourishes body and soul. cook with those you love. seek perspective. do not chastise yourself for believing and dreaming and trying. open yourself always to love. know your body as holy, your want as holy and your shattered heart as whole. continue to believe in lucky pennies, shooting stars and signs from the universe. get rid of what does not serve. let go of what no longer feels like you – clothing, decorations, people. holding on just fills up space that could be put to much better use. hold tight to that which brings you to your highest realization of self. ground your feet to the earth, at least once a day. reach for the sky every night. sit in the quiet darkness and let your mind go wild. find quiet peace in the midst of chaos. drink as many lattes as you want. own your losses, wear them clean. write the letter, speak the truth, unleash your voice. let the music be your mourning and your memory. let the music be your celebration and your reclamation. let the music be. let it wind it’s way through you. let it all wind it’s way through you. it will anyway, so don’t try to fight. it’s okay if you fight. remember your inherently flawed humanity exists nestled side by side with your inborn divinity. forgive yourself everything. and make sure you don’t forget buy a lavender plant. fall asleep with sprigs of it on your chest. breathe it deeply, all the way inside. it makes all the difference in the world.